Job Making You Miserable?

 Discover 5 proven strategies to take back control, reduce stress, and create a career you love.

A tired guy, preparing to face another day at a job he hates."I hate my miserable job" you mutter as you stare in the mirror ready to face another day.

Is your job making you miserable? Are you feeling  dread, anger, frustration every damn morning even before you start?

If you wake up staring at the clock knowing you are to start another day at a job you hate.  A job making you miserable. A job that drains the living hell out of you, you're not alone.

Many people find themselves stuck in a job that makes them miserable but feel powerless to change it.

According to a recent Gallup survey 68% of US workers hate what they do.

First came the Great Resignation—and now businesses around the world are experiencing the Great Gloom.

If you've ever thought, "I hate my job, but I don’t know what to do about it," than you have found the right place  - this guide will help you take action.

Hello, I’m Daryl Pratt

I am a mentor, coach and guide.

I have been mentoring folk like you since 2005.

I started MENTORaUS.com to help guys just like you.

In it I share my knowledge, wisdom and experience from the hundreds of hours of listening and guiding folk just like you to make a change. 

It will not be easy but it will be fulfilling, I can guarantee.

I have been where you are and now, it is my turn to pass it on. To pay it forward. 

Life is short my friend so the sooner you control your destiny the better.

  "Why Do I Hate My Job?"

Here’s the thing. You are reading this because basically, you hate your job and you hate going to work.

I know how you feel. Been there, done that!

Look it sucks, but if you can get an understanding of why you feel this way then you're on the right path to fixing it. 

So what do you do?

Before I get to the 5 Proven Ways, you need to have a clear understanding of what the issues are.

What is it about the job making you miserable.

Here are some common reasons. Feel free to add to it.

It is a good idea to get yourself a notebook and start jotting these issues down.

Do not type it into a notes folder.

This is important -  you have to write it out in longhand.

Common Reason Your Job Makes You Miserable.

Lack of Purpose or Passion

  • If your job doesn’t align with your values and interests.
  • If your work doesn’t excite or challenge you.
  • If it is boring.
  • It is hard to stay focused on a job that is - well, just not cutting with you. 

This is not the place you want to be. 


Toxic Work Environment

  • Negative coworkers. Oh dear this is painful. 
  • The shitty boss, well, we all know what that looks like. 
  • The Boss Bitch. Yeah, you know the one. Doesn’t matter what you do, it is not good enough, or it is wrong. You go out of your way to steer clear. 
The Boss Bitch. Yeah, you know the one. It doesn’t matter what you do; it is not good enough or wrong.The boss bitch has never heard of the slogan, “Catch people doing something right”.
  • This is soooo toxic it is offensive.
  • If it’s your work colleagues -  they just bring it, don’t they? Misery seems to follow them around like a bad smell. 
  • They look miserable and they speak misery. Yes, friends that is a language. 
  • They take it home with them. Then bring it all back tomorrow… and the beat goes on. What a miserable life. 

You cannot stay exposed to this. It will eat you up and spit you out. 

A toxit work place can be hell on earth.

If You’re Feeling Undervalued

  • If your hard work goes unnoticed. 
  • If you're underpaid.
  • If there is a lack of opportunities. 

It’s only natural to feel miserable and unappreciated when you feel undervalued.

If you feel under valued - you probably are.

a woman totally over a toxic work environmentIf you're not having time for yourself, can lead to burnout and resentment.

Poor Work-Life Balance

  • If you are constantly working late, feeling pressured to be available 24/7.
  • If you're not having time for yourself, can lead to burnout and resentment.
  • You know I’m right. We all know guys that this has happened to.

I have written thousands of words about this and mentored numerous guys on this issue. It is real. Recognize it as soon as possible. 

The despair of a burnt-out soulBurnt-out souls can lead to alcohol issues, loneliness and neglect of your family. We all know guys that have experienced this.

If you don’t it will lead to long-tail issues. 

Think - family, alcoholism, addictions, generational mental problems.

 Read what 'The Harvard Business Review' says about 'Work Life Balance"

Trust me. Get on top of this fast. 

Always be working on your work-life balance. I don’t care what job you have one you hate or a job you are passionate about and love what you do.

WLB can affect both. 

Get help. 

Job Insecurity

  • Is it the fear of being let go.
  • Is it company instability, or lack of job stability? This is a real factor of a job making you miserable. This on it's own can create constant stress and anxiety.
  • If any of these sound familiar, don’t ignore them. 

A job making you miserable can take a serious toll on your mental and physical health.

Please, please know there are options! There are people willing and grateful to help you.


Pinpoint the Problem areas

  • As I have covered above - be specific about what’s making you unhappy. 
  1. Is it your boss? 
  2. The work itself? 
  3. Long hours? 

When you identify the cause, you can start working toward a solution.

 Here are 5 Proven Ways to Take Control of a 
Job Making You Miserable?

1. Look For Opportunities

Look for opportunities you can grow into. Opportunities you are qualified for and can jump right in. 

Fight for these opportunities.

  • Make time to talk to HR or your superiors. 
  • Present your case. 
  • Be prepared. Never enter into an interview situation without being completely prepared.
  • Have a restfull nights sleep before interview day.
  • If you don't get a positive outcome, always seek out the reason.
  • If you are getting the run-around, no follow-up, no acknowledgement of the interview and you are feeling stifled, quit. 

Do not waste any more of your life in this miserable job.

2. Up-Grade Your Skill-Set

  • Gaining new skills could open doors to better opportunities. 
  • Consider taking online courses. 
  • Attending workshops on your choice of passion and profession. 
  • Networking with industry professionals.

This is ongoing. Self-development is a great habit to nurture.

3. Start a Side Hustle

  • If you want more freedom, consider starting a side business. 
  • Many have successfully transitioned from traditional jobs to a startup by building and side hustle first. 
  • Many good businesses have started as a side hustle. 
  • Grab an idea. 
  • Get yourself a mentor and see if this sucker can fly.
  • This simple exercise can be life-changing. I will mentor you through the dynamics of change. 
  • You will clearly understand the system and process and get a clear plan of action. 
  • Of course, this is not for everyone. You have to do some work. I will ‘lead you to the trough but you need to drink’. 

This is a great advantage for you. Not only will it create a sense of purpose as you discover the thrill of building your own tiny business, but it also takes the focus from the misery of your job to a place of achievement.

    Powerful. 

4. Stay Away From the Nay-Sayers

  • Observe the misery at work and you will identify Mister/Miss/Mrs Grumpy.
  • You will identify his/her tribe in an instant. 
  • They create a family.
  • Yes, I know you are being judgemental, in this instance, never mind.
  • This it is your armoury. 
  • This is an advantage you’ll have for the rest of your life.
  • Keep a respectable distant from the Grumpies.
  • The Nay-Sayers never bring good news, good vibes.
  • You will learn to spot them from 100 yards away. 
  • If you’re taking this home to the family, you need to fix this and quit now.
  • You are better than this.

This is a little 'out there', but here goes.

  • Build a notebook description of all the miserable characters in your workplace. 
  • Give them a stupid name. Like Mister Grumpy, Misery Guts, The Doomsday Chronicle and so on. 
  • If you can draw a little, do some stick figures. 

Warning don’t get caught. Keep the notebook in a locked drawer or somewhere private preferably at home.

You will identify them all and you can have some fun with this.

It’s not the answer of course but it might keep you sane.

You may get to laugh more.

Hang with the people who make you feel OK. These are the folks who encourage and support you. In the first instance they are usually your family. 

This is where the gold is.

5. When Quitting Your Job Is Not An Option at the Moment.

I’m assuming you can’t quit your job for economic reasons.

Quitting is the answer. But you already know that.

So, Start Planning Your Exit Strategy

  • Set clear boundaries. 
  • Avoid checking emails after hours 
  • Take regular breaks to prevent burnout.
  • Practise writing a letter of resignation. 

What If Quitting Isn’t an Option Right Now?

  • Continually update your resume.
  • Apply for new positions. 
  • Save money to give yourself financial flexibility.
  • How are you going to pay the rent, mortgage or student loans if you up and quit? I hear you. This is a major problem. I see it often. 
  • Set up a special purpose saving account and make a periodical payment order every month.
  • Find ways to make work more enjoyable (listen to music, take breaks, personalize your workspace, play around with your silly notebook).
  • Seek support from colleagues or a mentor.
  • Practice stress management techniques like exercise and meditation.
  • Keep reminding yourself that your current situation is temporary.

Not everyone can leave their job immediately just focus on making small improvements:

If your job is truly unbearable, start planning your exit.

Conclusion

Your job shouldn’t make you miserable. 

Choose to improve your current situation.

Consider starting a side hustle. I have some interesting things to say on this here.

You have more control than you might think. 

Take the first step today toward a happier, more fulfilling work life.

If you need more guidance contact me for personalized advice.

Record everything in a notebook.

Write it out in longhand.


Make time to update your regime.

Keep it current.

Reach out to your contacts.

Put yourself out there.

You never never know if you never never go.

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I Always Like To End With A Story

Meet Samantha, a 32-year-old marketing executive who seemed to have it all - a prestigious job, a corner office, and a six-figure salary. Yet, every morning, she’d wake up with a knot in her stomach, dreading the day ahead.

“I remember the exact moment I realized I couldn’t do it anymore,” Samantha recalls. It was Tuesday afternoon, and I was staring at my computer screen, feeling completely drained. I had just finished a conference call where my ideas were shot down for the umpteenth time. 

That’s when it hit me - I was miserable, and something had to change.”

She took action. 

She spent evenings and weekends reflecting on her passions, updating her skills, and networking. Within three months, she landed a role at a startup that aligned perfectly with her values and offered exciting growth opportunities.

Making a change from a toxic job creates one happy glowing lady.Making a change from a toxic job creates one happy glowing lady.

“I won’t lie. The transition was scary,” Samantha admits. “But the moment I walked into my new office, I felt a surge of excitement I hadn’t experienced in years. It just felt right."

"Now, I wake up energized, ready to tackle new challenges. I’m not just surviving; I’m thriving.” 

Not only did Samantha get a new lease on life and a new job, she was also offered shares in the startup at sign-on. Plus options, to convert future bonuses and pay rises to equity shares.

The company grew to a level no-one dreamed of. Samantha’s shareholding was last valued at $3.5 million.

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