I Hate Going To Work

What to do if you hate going to work

Every morning the alarm goes off.

You look in the mirror and mumble, “I hate going to work, I hate my job.”

You look in the mirror and mumble, “I hate going to work, I hate my job.”Every morning is the same. You look in the mirror and mumble, "I hate going to work"

Could this be you?

You are reading this because you did a web search looking for answers.

If it makes you feel any better, you’re not alone. 

In July 2023, Gallup found that over 80% of Americans are dissatisfied with how things are going at work and beyond. 

You are just one of the 80% of the American workforce that truly is dissatisfied with their job. (What an ugly stat.)

Like you, they all feel entombed in cubicles, trapped in retail, chained to warehouses, and drained by office politics and a bunch of other valid reasons. Working a job they hate.

Draw your own picture. 

You know who you are and what you are going through. 

You hate going to work.

I hear you. The question is, “What can you do about it? How can you fix it?”

Hello, I’m Daryl Pratt

I am a mentor, coach and guide.

I have been mentoring folk like you since 2005.

I started MENTORaUS.com to help guys just like you.

In it I share my knowledge, wisdom and experience from the hundreds of hours of listening and guiding folk just like you to make a change. 

It will not be easy but it will be fulfilling, I can guarantee.

I have been where you are and now, it is my turn to pass it on. To pay it forward. 

Life is short my friend so the sooner you control your destiny the better.


The Question is, "What Can You Do About It?" 
"How Can You Fix It?"

Here are 6 steps that will change your life

Step 1: Identify - I Hate Going To Work

Why do you hate going to work?

  • Here is the harsh truth: if you don’t control it, it will control you, but you know this, right?
  • Living with this issue of allowing the hatred for your job to pump through your veins will eventually result in physical and mental health issues. 
  • First, and probably obviously, you need to own it. 
  • You need to accept your frustration. 
  • Why is this so important? Because you can’t ever hope to change what you won’t acknowledge. 
  • Acknowledgment is the first step towards a happier work life. 
  • Understand, hating your job isn’t a badge of honor; it’s a big, fat, loud alarm bell.

Step 2: You Need to Fix it Before it Eats You Up Completely

You have the key. Grab it. Get out while you can.You are locked in a cage only if you believe you are. You can reach the key do something with it.
  • You are locked in a cage only if you believe you are. 
  • You’re not. You have the key.
  • You are going to do something about it.
  • Think about what life would be if you found your purpose. 
  • Think about what life would look like if you did not dread Monday mornings.
  • Think about what it would be if you were excited about going to work every day. 

I want you to peel back the layers of your job dissatisfaction and list the things you hate.

  • Is it the mundaneness of the tasks? 
  • Are you pissed off with management?
  • Is it the workplace culture?
  • The commute?
  • The work colleagues? 
  • Is your job making you miserable?
  • It could be all the above and some. 

Whatever it is, I want you to get a pen and notebook, find a quiet place, and write it all down. Don’t type it into a Word document. 

No! No! No! 

Write everything in your notebook. This is your passport to the future you.You have to write it out in longhand. You are in control. Don’t worry if you don’t understand, you will.
  • You have to write it out in longhand. 
  • There is power in what I am telling you to do. 
  • The power is you. 
  • You are in control. 
  • Don’t worry if you don’t understand it yet, you will.
  • When you have written it all down, put the notebook in a safe place. 
  • What you have written is private and confidential. 
  • You need not share this with anyone.
Take a walk to think.Go for a walk. Think about what you wrote. When you get back read it again. Add or delete where necessary.
  • Now I want you to go for a walk if you can. 
  • Think about what you have just written.
  • When you come back, get the notebook and read what you wrote.
  • Add or delete where necessary. 
  • It has been my experience. You will add far more than you will delete.
  • There is no right or wrong way to do this. 
  • Just let it all flow into the notebook.
  • What you have done, for the first time in your working life is to identify the root cause of the issue. 
  • It may be several issues. 
  • It doesn’t matter. You have it. 
  • In all its misery. 
  • In black and white.
  • In your handwriting.
  • Think about what you have written because now I want you to rate them. 
  • Rate what you hate most to what you hate least. 
  • You now have the key to creating a solution.

Step 3: Your Ideal Work Life

OK, we know what you hate. “I hate going to work” and “I hate my job” 

Next, I want you to imagine your ideal work life. 

  • What does it look like? 
  • Does it involve more freedom?
  • A fatter paycheck?
  • The gratification of making a difference? 

Whatever it is, just dream, and while you are dreaming I want you to turn to a clean page in your trusty little notebook and write it down.

All sounds weird I know, but I’m telling you it works. 

This exercise will turn negativity into a positive way forward. 

Change your mind. Change your attitude.This is a much better look. Just change ‘I hate going to work’, to ‘I love my work’.

This will change ‘I hate going to work’, to ‘I love my work’.

Once you identify your ideal job and what your needs are, place them in order of significance, as you did before. Rate them.

At the cross roads. Stay or quit.Do you stay or do you quit? Either demands guts, grit, and the discipline to change. Do not be frightened.

Step 4: Stay or Quit

Now comes the big question: 

  • Do you stay or do you quit? 
  • Either choice demands guts, grit, and the discipline to change. 
  • Do not be frightened. 
  • Fear is natural - it should be seen to inform you and seek further clarification of your decision-making, not rule over them.
  • Changing your job is not as scary as it seems. 
  • Unfamiliarity and not knowing the future is intimidating, it can also be thrilling. 
  • Instead of dreading the rage of ‘I hate going to work’, consider the thrill of a fresh start.
  • The best weapon against fear is knowledge. 
  • In your little notebook, do some research. 
  • Write it all down. 
  • Do the pros and cons. 
  • Explore prospective outcomes that align with your real interests and needs. 
  • Look for opportunities where your skills can be transferred.
  • Discovering your dream job won’t happen in a day. 
  • But it will happen. 

Once you have a fresh path in sight, it’s time to prepare. 


Step 5: Stay - Re-engineer Your Current Job

  • Revamp your resume. 
  • Update your LinkedIn profile. 
  • Tap into your network. 
  • The more you spread the word, the quicker opportunities come knocking.

What if you re-engineer your current job to meet your needs? 

  • Change is not always about jumping ship; it can also be about a change of direction.
  • Express your concerns to management. 
Make your requests with purpose and confidence.Always attend meetings well-prepared. Do your homework. Know the issues backwards. You will more than likely be more prepared than them.
  • Make sure they understand the gravity of your dissatisfaction. 
  • Discuss improving your position.
  • Communication is a two-way street–as much as you expect the management to listen, you also need to listen to them. 
  • Always attend any meeting well-prepared. 
  • Do your homework. 
  • Know the issues backwards. 
  • Be prepared to compromise at a price. 
  • Be on the front foot. 

After all, what have you got to lose? 

If you have all the issues clearly referenced in your notebook, then:

you have a plan of action. 

Step 6: Quit - Contemplate Starting a Business

  • It is more than likely you are more prepared than management. 
  • Know what skills you have. 
  • Enhancing your current job satisfaction by learning something new. 
  • Enrolling in a relevant course or program might breathe new life into your role and open up latent possibilities.
  • Armed with these tools, know that every step you take is a stride towards a happier work life. 

Perhaps it is time to contemplate starting a business. This is a giant leap, but courage, passion, and planning will work wonders. 

  • Walk away from the beaten path and carve your destiny. 
  • Write your own story.
  • If you’re veering toward entrepreneurship, make sure you have done your homework.
  • Know the positives and negatives, the loopholes, and the opportunities. 
  • Draft a sound flexible business plan. 
  • Secure some finance if the plan forecasts it. 
  • Outsource a talented team around you. 
  • Get yourself an advisor/mentor, someone who has been there before. 
  • Be prepared for the ride of your life. 


Don’t Let Negativity Consume You


Each decision, each action, each day brings you closer to the day when you change, from “I hate going to work,” to “I love going to work!”


I have helped hundreds of people just like you. So, I would like to introduce one of them. 

Meet Jackson


I was referred to Jackson about 20 years ago. Man, was he a screwed-up dude? “I hate going to work” was his catch cry. This guy hated everything. Me included in the initial stages. Most of all, his job.

Jackson was married to Lisa the most supportive wife I have ever met. The thing is, the situation wasn’t just tearing Jackson apart it was having a profound effect on Lisa and the marriage. 

A supportive couple.Jackson was married to Lisa the most supportive wife I have ever met.

I had an initial hook-up and listened to about an hour of rants. Man, this guy hated his job, work, workmates, commute, salary package, benefits, Jackson pretty much hated everything.

The obvious question was to ask, “Why don’t you quit?”. 

To which he replied, “I don’t know how to move forward. I’m scared.” “We need the income.” 

I’m not going to recount the interviews over the preceding months, only to say Jackson quit his job. 

Together, we eventually found his purpose. He started an online business writing university leaver’s CV. This led to business flyers and Facebook startups and even had an unusual request for writing obituaries that went really well. Who’d have thought?

Was it easy? Hell no!. It was damn hard work. The thing is Jackson loved what he was doing.

You know what I’m going to say, “When ya’ love what ya’ do, it’s never work.”

Jackson had found his mojo. 

He loved starting his workday. He had never worked so hard in his entire life, but he was doing what he loved. 

The money wasn’t great in the early stages. But with the support of Lisa, they survived. Today they have sold the startup and moved on to a publishing and drafting plan business. The money is rolling in. 

You know, it sounds a little trite, but it’s never about the money. It’s doing what you love. The money will come.  

“I hate going to work” does not have to be a life sentence. 

Like Jackson, transform despair into determination and find your purpose in life. 

Turn the hate into an opportunity to follow your path to a job you love.

Thinking It Isn’t Possible?

Think again - you and only you are the architect of your happiness, the master of your destiny. 

  • Everything begins with the first step. 
  • Step into the unknown and out of your comfort zone.
  • Instead of whispering, “I hate going to work,” challenge yourself and declare, “I will find my purpose in life!”
  • “I will build a future.”
  • “I will love what I do.”
  • You are stronger than you think. 
  • So what do you do?

It’s time you embrace change rather than fear it. 

Conclusion

No more dreading Monday mornings.

No more feeling trapped.

You have the power to change your path, whether that means re-engineering your current job, finding a new one, or starting your own business.

The first step is acknowledging the problem.

The next is taking action.

Like Jackson, you can break free from the cycle of hating your job and build a life that excites you.

The choice is yours—stay stuck or step forward.

Think about what life would be if you found your purpose.

How would you feel every morning when you looked in the bathroom mirror and instead of mumbling, “I hate going to work.” you shout, “I love going to work, I love my job.”?

Your future is waiting.

This is your time.

You decide. 

It’s your move.

The chess boardIt is your move.

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